Quick background on my situation — any input appreciated.
divorce mediation vs litigation. I've been dealing with this for about 11 weeks now and the situation isn't improving.
Do I have a strong case? What should my next steps be?
Real talk: realistic cost comparison for an amicable divorce with moderate assets:
| Mediation | $3,000-$8,000 total (mediator fees + filing costs + optional review attorney) |
| Collaborative divorce | $10,000-$25,000 (each party has an attorney, but committed to settlement) |
| Litigation | $15,000-$50,000+ per side (and often much more if contested) |
For an amicable split where you agree on major issues, mediation is almost always the right choice. A good mediator will help you address things you haven't thought of (retirement account division/QDRO, tax implications of property transfers, life insurance for child support security, handling of debts).
One strong recommendation: even if you mediate, each party should have an independent attorney review the final agreement before signing. This costs $500-$1,500 per person and catches issues the mediator (who is neutral) can't advise you on individually.