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Responding to Employer Defenses

Counter-arguments for common harassment claim defenses under FEHA and Title VII

How to Use This Guide

When employers respond to harassment claims, they typically raise predictable defenses. This guide provides legally-supported counter-arguments with citations to California FEHA law and federal Title VII precedent. Click each defense to see detailed response strategies.

1
"It Was Just Joking Around" Very Common

The Defense Explained

Employers and harassers often characterize sexual or offensive comments as "just jokes," claiming no harm was intended and everyone should have a sense of humor.

Your Counter-Arguments

  • Intent is irrelevant under harassment law - the focus is on impact
  • "Jokes" that reference sex, gender, race, or other protected characteristics are still harassment
  • Repeated "jokes" after being told they're unwelcome shows deliberate disregard
  • A hostile work environment doesn't require hostile intent
  • Courts have consistently rejected the "just joking" defense
Sample Response Language

"Whether [harasser] intended their comments as 'jokes' is legally irrelevant. California law applies an objective standard: would a reasonable person in my position find this conduct offensive? Repeated sexual comments, regardless of claimed humorous intent, created a hostile work environment as defined under Government Code section 12940(j). The pattern of conduct - not the claimed intent - determines liability."

Evidence to Gather
  • Documentation of specific "jokes" with dates and witnesses
  • Evidence you told the person to stop or showed displeasure
  • Testimony from others who found the conduct offensive
  • Company policy prohibiting such conduct regardless of intent
2
"You Never Complained to HR" Procedural

The Defense Explained

Employers argue that because you didn't file a formal HR complaint, they had no opportunity to address the harassment and shouldn't be liable (Faragher/Ellerth affirmative defense).

Your Counter-Arguments

  • If supervisor harassed you: California imposes STRICT LIABILITY on employers for supervisor harassment - no complaint required
  • You did complain informally (to manager, verbally to HR, etc.)
  • Reasonable fear of retaliation made formal reporting impractical
  • The complaint procedure was unclear or inaccessible
  • Management witnessed the harassment and took no action
  • Company culture made it clear complaints weren't welcome
Critical Point:

In California, employers cannot escape liability for supervisor harassment by pointing to an unused complaint procedure. This is different from federal law. Make sure to emphasize California's strict liability standard.

Sample Response Language

"Under California FEHA, [Company] is strictly liable for harassment by supervisors regardless of whether I used the formal complaint procedure. Government Code section 12940(j)(1) provides no Faragher/Ellerth-style affirmative defense for supervisor harassment. [Alternatively/Additionally], I reasonably feared retaliation given [specific examples], making formal reporting impractical. The company was on constructive notice because [manager witnessed/common knowledge/etc.]."

Evidence to Gather
  • Evidence harasser was a supervisor (had authority over your work)
  • Any informal complaints you made (emails, conversations)
  • Evidence of retaliation culture or prior retaliation against others
  • Witnesses who saw management observe the harassment
  • Deficiencies in the complaint procedure (hard to find, unclear, etc.)
3
"It Wasn't Severe or Pervasive Enough" Legal Standard

The Defense Explained

Employers argue the alleged conduct was too minor or infrequent to constitute actionable harassment - that it didn't rise to the level of "severe or pervasive" required by law.

Your Counter-Arguments

  • Conduct was SEVERE (single serious incidents: assault, explicit propositions, threats)
  • Conduct was PERVASIVE (frequent, ongoing pattern over time)
  • Must consider totality of circumstances, not each incident in isolation
  • The standard is what a reasonable person in YOUR position would find hostile
  • Physical conduct is inherently more severe than verbal
  • Position of authority of harasser increases severity
Single Incident Sufficient
Physical assault, explicit quid pro quo, severe threat
Pattern Required
Offensive comments, jokes, inappropriate touching
Borderline
Isolated comment, single mild incident
Sample Response Language

"The harassment was [severe/pervasive/both] under the totality of circumstances standard. [Describe pattern of incidents]. Under Hughes v. Pair, each incident need not be independently actionable - courts consider the cumulative effect. [If single incident]: This single incident was sufficiently severe because [physical contact/explicit demand/threat to job]. A reasonable person in my position - [relevant characteristics] - would find this environment hostile."

Evidence to Gather
  • Detailed timeline showing frequency and pattern of incidents
  • Witnesses to multiple incidents
  • Documentation showing interference with work performance
  • Medical/psychological records showing impact on you
  • Any physical evidence (photos, recordings if legal, messages)
4
"You Welcomed the Conduct" Very Common

The Defense Explained

Employers claim that because you participated in banter, laughed at jokes, didn't object loudly, or had a prior relationship with the harasser, the conduct was "welcome."

Your Counter-Arguments

  • Going along due to power imbalance or fear is not "welcoming"
  • Failure to object is not the same as consent
  • Prior relationship doesn't mean all subsequent conduct is welcome
  • Consent can be withdrawn at any time
  • Laughing nervously or playing along to avoid retaliation is common response
  • You explicitly asked for conduct to stop on [date]
Important Note:

Employers may try to use your social media, dress, or personal life against you. Evidence of "provocative" behavior outside work is generally irrelevant and inadmissible. Focus on documenting when you objected or tried to avoid the harasser.

Sample Response Language

"Any appearance of 'welcoming' this conduct resulted from the inherent power imbalance between [harasser's position] and my position as [your position]. Participation under duress or fear of career consequences is not genuine consent. I explicitly indicated the conduct was unwelcome when [describe objection]. The Supreme Court in Meritor recognized that apparent 'voluntariness' must be evaluated in context of workplace power dynamics."

Evidence to Gather
  • Documentation of when you asked for conduct to stop
  • Evidence of power imbalance (org chart, authority to affect your job)
  • Witnesses who saw you try to avoid the harasser
  • Evidence you complained to friends/family contemporaneously
  • Any retaliation or negative treatment after you objected
5
"We Investigated and Found Nothing" Procedural

The Defense Explained

Employer claims they conducted a proper investigation, found the harassment claims "unsubstantiated," and therefore took appropriate action.

Your Counter-Arguments

  • Investigation was not impartial (conducted by friend of harasser, HR with conflict)
  • Key witnesses were not interviewed
  • Evidence you provided was ignored or dismissed
  • Investigation took too long, allowing harassment to continue
  • "Unsubstantiated" doesn't mean it didn't happen - just that they chose not to believe you
  • No meaningful remedial action was taken even after complaint
  • Investigator had predetermined conclusion
Sample Response Language

"The investigation was inadequate because [specific deficiencies]. Key witnesses [names] were never interviewed. Evidence I provided, including [describe], was disregarded. The investigator [name] had a conflict of interest as [relationship to harasser/company]. An employer cannot escape liability by conducting a sham investigation designed to reach a predetermined conclusion. Despite the complaint, no corrective action was taken and the harassment continued."

Evidence to Gather
  • Copy of investigation report (request through discovery or data request)
  • List of witnesses you provided vs. witnesses actually interviewed
  • Evidence you submitted that wasn't mentioned in report
  • Timeline showing delay in investigation
  • Evidence investigator had bias or conflict of interest
  • Continued harassment after investigation "concluded"
6
"The Harasser Was Disciplined" Procedural

The Defense Explained

Employer claims they took "appropriate corrective action" against the harasser, such as a warning, training, or minor discipline, and therefore fulfilled their legal duty.

Your Counter-Arguments

  • Discipline was not proportional to the severity of harassment
  • Harassment continued after the supposed discipline
  • You were not separated from the harasser
  • The "discipline" was performative (verbal warning, meaningless training)
  • Harasser faced no real consequences and knew it
  • Same harasser had prior complaints with same minimal response
Sample Response Language

"The corrective action taken was inadequate and not 'reasonably calculated to end the harassment.' A verbal warning for [describe serious harassment] fails to meet the proportionality requirement. Indeed, the harassment continued after this purported discipline, demonstrating its ineffectiveness. [Harasser] faced no meaningful consequences and remained in a position to continue the harassment. Prior complaints against [harasser] received similarly toothless responses, showing a pattern of inadequate enforcement."

Evidence to Gather
  • Documentation of what discipline was actually imposed
  • Evidence harassment continued after discipline
  • Comparison to discipline for other workplace violations
  • Evidence of prior complaints against same harasser
  • Proof you continued working near/with harasser
7
"It Was Equal Opportunity Harassment" Legal Standard

The Defense Explained

Employer argues the harasser was equally abusive to everyone regardless of gender, race, or other protected characteristics - therefore it wasn't "because of" a protected characteristic.

Your Counter-Arguments

  • The CONTENT of harassment was sex/race-based regardless of who received it
  • Sexual comments are inherently "because of sex"
  • Evidence shows harassment was actually more severe toward your group
  • The harasser used different forms of harassment for different groups
  • California FEHA provides broader protection than federal law
  • Even if true, creates hostile environment actionable under California law
Sample Response Language

"The 'equal opportunity harasser' defense fails because the harassment was sexual/gender-based in nature. Sexual comments, propositions, and conduct are inherently 'because of sex' regardless of whether the harasser directed them at multiple people. Under Oncale, the relevant question is whether the conduct would have occurred but for the victim's sex. [Additionally/Alternatively], the harassment was actually more severe toward [women/men/etc.] as shown by [evidence]."

Evidence to Gather
  • Documentation of the specific nature of harassing conduct
  • Comparison of treatment between different groups
  • Witness testimony about differential treatment
  • Evidence the harassment referenced protected characteristics
8
"You're Too Sensitive" Very Common

The Defense Explained

Employer argues you're overreacting and that a reasonable person wouldn't find the conduct offensive - essentially blaming you for being bothered.

Your Counter-Arguments

  • The standard is "reasonable person in your position" - not generic reasonable person
  • Other employees found the conduct offensive (witnesses)
  • Company policy itself prohibits this exact conduct
  • The conduct objectively created a hostile environment
  • Your subjective reaction is relevant to damages, even if not to liability
  • California law explicitly rejects the "stray remarks" doctrine
Sample Response Language

"A reasonable person in my position - as a [relevant characteristic] employee subjected to [describe conduct] - would find this environment hostile. This isn't about personal sensitivity; it's about applying the legal standard correctly. Other employees found the conduct offensive [cite witnesses]. The company's own harassment policy prohibits exactly this behavior, implicitly acknowledging it's objectively inappropriate. California Government Code section 12923(b) requires consideration of my perspective, not a decontextualized 'reasonable person.'"

Evidence to Gather
  • Company harassment policy showing conduct was prohibited
  • Testimony from coworkers who found conduct offensive
  • Training materials showing this conduct is inappropriate
  • Industry standards for professional conduct
  • Your own documentation showing reasonable response
9
"Statute of Limitations Expired" Procedural

The Defense Explained

Employer claims you waited too long to file your complaint with CRD/EEOC, and therefore your claim is time-barred.

Your Counter-Arguments

  • Continuing violation doctrine: If harassment continued into the limitations period, earlier acts are actionable
  • Discovery rule: Limitations may be tolled until you knew or should have known you had a claim
  • Equitable tolling: Timely filing with wrong agency or pending internal process may toll deadline
  • Estoppel: If employer's conduct (promises to fix it, threats) delayed your filing
  • California's 3-year FEHA deadline is generous - confirm their math is correct
Sample Response Language

"The limitations period has not expired. [Choose applicable argument]: (1) The continuing violation doctrine applies because harassment continued through [last date], bringing all related acts within the 3-year FEHA period. (2) The discovery rule tolls the deadline because I did not discover the actionable nature of the conduct until [date] when [explain]. (3) Equitable tolling applies because [employer's conduct that delayed filing]. My CRD complaint filed [date] is timely."

Evidence to Gather
  • Timeline of ALL harassing incidents, including most recent
  • Date you first realized conduct was actionable harassment
  • Evidence of employer conduct that delayed your filing
  • Records of any other agency filings
  • Documentation of ongoing nature of harassment
10
"Mandatory Arbitration Agreement" Legal Standard

The Defense Explained

Employer claims you signed an arbitration agreement requiring you to pursue claims through private arbitration rather than court or agency proceedings.

Your Counter-Arguments

  • EFAA (federal law): For sexual harassment, YOU choose whether to arbitrate - employer cannot force it
  • Agreement may be unconscionable under California law
  • Agreement may not cover harassment claims specifically
  • You never knowingly agreed (buried in onboarding paperwork)
  • CRD/EEOC complaints cannot be blocked by arbitration (agency enforcement)
  • Agreement may be procedurally unconscionable (no negotiation, take-it-or-leave-it)
Federal Law Change:

The 2022 EFAA is a significant protection. For sexual assault or sexual harassment claims that arose after March 3, 2022, you can void any pre-dispute arbitration agreement. This is federal law that preempts contrary state law.

Sample Response Language

"The arbitration agreement is unenforceable for this sexual harassment claim under the federal Ending Forced Arbitration of Sexual Assault and Sexual Harassment Act (EFAA), 9 U.S.C. § 401-402. Under the EFAA, I elect to have this claim heard in court rather than arbitration. [Alternatively]: The arbitration agreement is unconscionable under California law because [procedural: no opportunity to negotiate, hidden in paperwork] [substantive: limits remedies, requires fee-splitting, etc.]."

Evidence to Gather
  • Copy of the arbitration agreement
  • Circumstances of signing (orientation, pressure, no explanation)
  • Evidence you had no opportunity to negotiate terms
  • Any unconscionable provisions (fee-splitting, limited discovery, etc.)
  • Date harassment occurred (to confirm EFAA applies - post March 2022)

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